I am a perpetual dieter. Diet- I hate that word. The definition of diet is: 1. The usual food and drink of a person or animal. 2. A regulated selection of foods, as for medical reasons or cosmetic weight loss.
3. Something used, enjoyed, or provided regularly. However; when I think of diet, deprivation comes to mind- while that isn’t necessarily the case. I’m in the process of improving my relationship with myself and becoming accepting of my body.
One day on my lowest of days, I realized that it was time to stop the insanity. This is what led me on the road to accepting my body.
Step 1: Dressing for the body I have and not the body I want. There have been a countless number of times that I’ve squeezed into clothing that was too snug. I felt uncomfortable all day and couldn’t wait to get home and free myself from the restricting clothing… Or times when I’ve worn body shapers in hopes of creating a smooth shape and sleeker appearance, while wearing clothing that was too small. 🤦♂️ The first step to accepting your body is putting away the clothes that no longer fit. This doesn’t mean that you won’t ever fit them. Simply move the clothing to the back of your closet somewhere that you won’t be confronted with them each time you open the closet. But do dress up and wear things that make you feel great. Wear that dress that makes you feel special and your favorite shade of lipstick. This will remind you that you are enough and the body you have is worthy of care and attention.
Step 2: Show yourself grace. Achieving your body goals can be difficult. There will be times when you go off course. It’ll feel like it’s the end of the world; but it’s not. Realize where you went wrong and figure out a course of action to get yourself back on track. You can’t spend too much time beating yourself up and putting so much emphasis on the fact that you messed up. Move on and do better. Everyday take action and do something that will get you closer to where you want to be, whether it’s eating healthier or working out or going for a walk. Progress is a process and you have to start somewhere no matter how big or small the effort.
Step 3: Show yourself love. At times I lose sight of what I like about my body because I’m thinking about all the things wrong with my body. What do you like about your body? Make a list. This will help you develop a new and much-needed sense of appreciation for your body. Read this list each day like you would daily affirmations. Make these your daily affirmations. Repeat them everyday so that they are impressed in your subconscious mind.
Step 4: Step away from the scale. You can eat well, workout and feel great about yourself and the minute you step on a scale,
you feel deflated because you see little to no change. At one point I would weigh myself 3-4 a day, expecting some miraculous change. I put too much emphasis on the numbers on scale and not enough on the progress and changes I was making towards achieving my goal. The moment I stopped relying on a scale to influence the way I feel about my body was a huge step in my body acceptance process. This was challenging but a much-needed action to help with my progress.
Even though I have this plan in place, sometimes I still don’t always feel my best. But over time I am getting better… Better at loving myself, better at accepting my body as it is and knowing that I am enough.